..I waited 11 years to get remarried and my ex- waited less than a year.. and divorced again; remarried again.. and divorced again; and is getting married again I understand.. Huh, I'd rather be single than having all that baggage!!!

the ex waited less then 6 months...
....hum?...
I figured I must have made him so happy he had to have someone to fill the void..and he made me so miserable..that I enjoyed the space and air ....of freedom....ce

nm

GOOD FOR YOU for making the tough decision to leave!!! It takes a lot of strength but is sounds like it's defintely the right thing to do for YOU! I can relate a little having grown up with a wonderful dad who is a slave to the bottle... nothing you can do about it!

Warm hugs!

- Cristina (& Leeloo)
"the greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return."

I hope things work out for you, I'm so sorry to hear things are rough. I hope things get better... At least you know you have Jez ... And all of us We love you!

You've made a very difficult decision, and I know it's a painful one. However, the pain of staying would be 100 times greater. You are a very strong woman, and I wish you the very best.

I've been there and done that with three kids too.
It does get better and it does get easier. Good luck to you......and try to post once in awhile so we know you are ok.

I am sure Jez will be there for you when the times get tough. And you know all of us are hear for you anytime you need us. You will be fine!

P.S. Just don't forget to pack Jez's terrible towel!!

Kim & Daisy

They say everything happens for a reason, only you know what the reason will be. As heartbreaking as this is I know your heart will mend and you will move on. I will add you to my daily prayers, what your doing takes a lot of courage.

When you feel down in the dumps just look at those furbabies and let them help you get through this difficult time.

women are more likely to take their time in remarrying following the break-up of the previous relationship. Men are more likely to jump into a new relationship right away.

Case in point: I was single 7 years between my two marriages (though had received a marriage proposal during that time that I declined). My first husband remarried within the first year of our divorced and Wayne hadn't been divorced quite a year when we got married.

It shows me that women are have emotional strength and know how to be independent.

I went through a similar situation several years ago. Quite frankly, my life is much better without him. In addition to drinking, he was also cheating on me...after 23 years of marriage. Anyhow, it is better that you get out sooner than later. The transition is tough, but you will do OK. Someone told me that it takes seven years to get over something like this...the time it takes for all the cells in your body to replace themselves. It really didn't make sense to me then. But now, after almost seven years, it does. Life is getting better and better. Jusr remember to reach out to your friends and follow your passion....obviously bullies. You will be doing a fine thing with your involvement in bullie rescue. I work at the animal shelter on the weekends, and it has been great and very healing.
Anyhow, my heart goes out to you at this difficult time.Elizabeth and Briggs

I don't know if you were refering to me but actually it was to Jez I think he has been giving lessons to my Lil Ruby she has discovered my kitchen towels and is always trying to get one.
Hope the rest of your life goes better than the last part.
Keep your eyes to the future anddon't look back.

I am so sorry to hear about your hubby. I have personal experience with alcohol issues from my past. You might want to think about some support groups/books that are out there. I always thought I was intelligent and independent enough that my exposure as an adult child of alcoholics would "go away" or be minimized. Years later - it still bites me in the butt....

Best wishes on your lifestyle change -

your buddies
Kris, Butch and the troops

Denise I am so shocked to hear this news.

Oh My goodness I dont know what to say, What a big step you are taking - your heart must be breaking but like the saying goes "this too shall pass"
You hang in there, you are one heck of a strong girl that I admire - Dont give up on the Vegas trip, just put that piggy bank aside for the next few months. ALL drinks will be on me!!
Im always here if you need to talk or a shoulder to lean on, or a years supply of Macadamia nut chocolates.

All my love
Lisa

Your in my thoughts Denise very hard decision. But only you know the limit of what you can take. Good luck to you and your new adventure. Take care

n/m

Love,
Amy & Abby

I too have made the same decision you are making after 6 years of marriage and a 1 1/2 year old baby. I can say it was the best decision I have made in my life to date for my sake and my daughters. Hang in there and I am in Conroe if you need some new stomping grounds! Give me a call.

Lisa

I am sorry for what you are going through-sometimes the right decisions are the hardest to make. Also we will miss you in Las Vegas but certainly understand why! Hang in there-we are all here for you no matter what you need!

Kelly B

...and that includes getting you to Vegas!!! YOU MUST COME!!!

First off, I'm sorry for all you are having to go through. Divorce is a hard and senseless thing that no one ever "expects" to have to go through. However, I'm sure for many, after a period of time, it's the best thing they have ever gone through. In my case, it's the best thing that ever happened to me. Funny how these things sometimes work out though.

If you need anything that I can help with, including my shoulders, they are yours!! ..they are wide and available for you if you need anything!! Please remember that.

Take care of your sweet Jezzie and keep her close. She will be your staunchest supporter. Take care of yourself and know I'm here!

Robin

it appears your journey is about to open to new quests and self honor....
...I admire your courage to claim back your self..and know your worth....
...rough times ahead indeed...and one step at a time...and remember friends are for always...so lean on,scream,rejoice,cry,share,seek comfort....act out...what ever your need at the moment nuture you ...and stay very close ...
..you are taking the computer correct?!!!!
and vegas is months away...we may still get that in person hug...smile
...for now...be very good to you...hugs and much love...ce

I have heard you talk and listened to you say certain things and from what I gather I think you are doing what you need to do. You have to take care of YOU. I am here for you if you need to vent or just talk. Keep your chin up and keep moving forward. It will get better, Im sure.

You have so very many friends here. Use us. We are here for ya!

Don't be a stranger, because you know we are all family. And, don't rule out Vegas, things sometimes have a way of working out. First of all, I think I would have kicked HIS a** out of the house and stayed.

But, things work out for a reason, and we are here for you.

but it sounds like you are doing the right thing. It takes a very strong person to go through with it so you deserve all the credit in the world. Take care of yourself and those bullies of yours! There are better times ahead, I am sure.

Angela

It sounds like it has been enough. I wish you the best of luck. Make sure you get all of the good towels for Jez.

Whatever you need... whenever you need to vent...

Julia

I can tell by the tone of your post that you're a very determined lady. You go girl!!!

I'm sure you'll be just fine. You'll be so relieved not to have to put up with the abuse. I LOVE living alone.

Thank you for getting involved with rescue. You're needed SO badly. I wish I had the space & time.

n/m

and for your husband...some Peace. Speaking from experience...your road ahead will be rough,lonely,confusing and everything in between..really it isnt that much different from the road you've been on...but as you heal, and time goes on, you get stronger, more confident, and finally you get peace...Please know that you are not alone, and if you need an ear...mines available..
Take care good care of yourself and your babies, I admire your courage Denise....Sharon and Roxie

If there is anything I can do please let me know.

Sue

and some ears to bend.

I did plenty of that with my friends when I was in relationship upheaval.

The pooches will be a great comfort to you too!

but happy for you to start a beginning just for you. Without elaborating I had to make a decision once many years ago somewhat similar to yours and it was the best thing I did to give be a much better chance for a happy life. You'll make it fine and be a strong, happy and independent lady.

land a big case, definitely! Or even a decent client who pays by the hour. Unfortunately, they always send their work to the crooked lawyers who pay the kick backs, buy them the Super Bowl tickets, send them on fishing and skiing trips, etc. But if I win that Powerball, you and Patti can come help me open that doggy day care center for bulldogs I want to open. We'll also run a law office that only takes in cases that are fun to do.

That must have taken a lot of strength and courage. We'll be thinking of you.

Many of us have had to go through it..... it's horrible, but gets better, if you ever need a get away..... Calif is great, and there's plenty of room.

This does sound like a hard time for you. It sounds like you are doing the right thing. Best of luck with your new life. Give Jez a hug for us.

Denise,
I'm very sorry to hear that news. I do wish you the very best and hope everything works out for you. let me know if you need anything. Web

You will be in our thoughts. Take Care.

After 11 years of indecision and finally making a decision, it feels great. You can help though. Do you need a legal secretary that brings her dog to work with her and are willing to pay big bucks?

it didn't work out. I was really hoping it would be a wake up call for him. Let me know if there is anything I can do.

nm