(warning---this is **sad**, but general topic...just curious
Submitted by ArchimedesMommy on May 31, 2012 - 3:04amsorry, I know my subject was kinda vague, but I had to make it brief and wanted to make SURE people knew it would be sad...but don't worry,
it's NOT about a specific doggie or anything....(I say that because I have a verrry hard time reading stories about abused/ abandoned
rescue doggies!!)
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I'm just curious what y'all think about this...and I know this is the PERFECT place to ask, since we all love our bullies and other pets
sooo much!!! First, some background....I've been a nurse forever.....I still get VERY VERY sad about certain patients, and sometimes
cry about them...but most of the time, I have learned that in order to stay sane, I had to "toughen up" and distance myself sometimes...
instead of SYMPATHY, I learned the hard way that I need to practice EMPATHY....but it doesn't ALWAYS work, and once in a while, I
do get verry, verrry sad for patients. .I've also always been a worrier about my family and closest friends, and have cried about them, too!
(wow, I'm starting to sound like a total MESS, aren't I?)....Really, I'm not..... I promise! I laugh A LOT, tooo!!!! ...
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I also volunteer
at a shelter for neglected/ abused babies and children----you can only imagine the SADNESS there.....!!! I have to "toughen up" when
I'm there and not think about what caused them to end up there....I have come close to tears a few times, but have never actually cried..
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I lost my baby brother 3 years ago--we were very close!---I *STILL* cry about him....and it's painful......oh wow, I never knew how
hard and how MUCH I could cry....it has been an unbelievable journey of sadness....(I only share this again because I want those
reading this to get the FULL picture of what I'm trying to ask....bare with me! LOL!)
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Howeverrrr, ever since we had the blessings of Meaty and Sophie, I find that I can cry SOOO easily over sad stories about doggies...
and OH EM GEEE.....I cannot and will not watch those heartwrenching ASPCA commercials...!!!!
It has gotten so bad that I was almost in tears telling my hubby about 3 doggies I saw today who were escaping through a fence,
and it was sooo hot, their tongues were wagging, I knew they had to be thirsty and hungry. At our local grocery store, there are
2 stray dogs that pretty much live on the grounds, and that also makes me wanna cry. I was sooo happy that the store employees
told me they feed and water them!!!...
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SO, you get the picture now, (if you read this far.....sorry this is so long....hee hee!)........My question is----as animal lovers, why do
you guys think that I can cry sooo easily over abandoned/ neglected animals? Is it because I've never loved a doggie as much as
I adore my Meaty and Sophie? Is it because animals seem more *VULNERABLE* than people? I've noticed that my hubby has also
gotten a REALLLLY soft heart when it comes to doggies, but only since we got our Meaty and Sophie....is that the cause of this?
I really look forward to your
thoughts......and ((( HUGS ))) to all that are hurting!!!
Our sweet Archimedes "MEATY" Bones (or as we say...boneSHHH!) ---born 11/28/08---- our first bullllyyyy!!!
And SOPHIE Bubbles *Rapscallion* (LOL!) ---born 4/3/11----our second bulllllyyyy!!!!
need to add one more thought to my post.....(*sad*)
Sorry if I'm being a bummer, but I just realllllly find this topic interesting, and, unfortunately, I know MANY of you have been through
the loss of your bullie(s), other cherished pets... I have read about MANY times where wives/sisters will say their husband/ brother
never showed SO much emotion when a HUMAN that they loved died versus a PET......As much as it pains me to think about it,
I just KNOW that when we lose Meaty, (and also Sophie--- but more Meaty--- since he clearrrrly favors "Daddy" !!!) , my sweet
hubby is going to take it soo hard. There is just something (what *IS* that "something"???) about losing a beloved pet that is
different than a human......is it because they are at our sides ALL. THE. TIME.? Is it because they give such unconditional
(and a different type) of love than other humans?
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Again, forgive me for posting about something so sad, but I am seriously just so curious----if someone can guide me to some books
to read, I'd really appreciate it. Andddd, if anyone is still reading this far---I would like to offer an example of what I'm talking about...
There is a beautiful movie called "Hatchi" ......oh my goodness....have you seen this movie!!!!????!?? I would never give spoliers, but I have
to tell you, if you want to see an example of the EXTREME loyalty, devotion, and love of a dog for his human, you REALLLLY have to
see this move!! I know for a fact that NO movie has ever touched my hubby this much, and probably not me, either....
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again, thanks to those who read my first and then this post.......I really look foreward to hearing what y'all think....((( HUGS!! ))
Our sweet Archimedes "MEATY" Bones (or as we say...boneSHHH!) ---born 11/28/08---- our first bullllyyyy!!!
And SOPHIE Bubbles *Rapscallion* (LOL!) ---born 4/3/11----our second bulllllyyyy!!!!
I have become that person...
I had dreamed of getting Rugby for five years and I am still shocked/surprised about how much love I feel for my little furball. I didn't think it would be this much and I can't imagine not having him in our lives.
I was one of those people that thought others were a little nuts in regards to the attention and obsession that they had with their pets. I now am proudly part of that group. I have become much more emotional hearing stories and reading about the bullies on this page. Baxter's passing moved me to tears, a dog that we followed on Instagram passed a few months ago and even my boyfriend got teary eyed on that one. Most recently, Sherbert from UrbanBulldog.com passed away and I had to do my best to fight the tears at my desk. I think when you have amazing furry friends that make you laugh, are spirited and stubborn, you can only get emotional when you hear about other situations and reflect that it could have been you. My take on it is that while their are sad stories out there, and unfortunately they will never go away, we have to make the best of our lives with our pups and enjoy every moment. Live life to the fullest and help when you can.
I have seen that movie..I
I have seen that movie..I don't think I have ever cried more than I did during that hour and a half. It is such a good movie, and makes it so much more meaningful since it is a true story. I have always been a HUGE animal lover and I usually feel more sympathy for them than anything else. I do think it has to do with how vunerable they are. And although there are great people out there--there are also a LOT of people who do terrible things to these innocent creatures. I have had tons of pets my whole life (even several rats!)..but no pet has ever made me feel the way Otis does. I love him soo much that if I so much as think about losing him I get teary eyed! I just couldn't imagine it. And I think that is why when we hear about other people losing their dog that they loved so much we can relate to how awful that must feel. I heard a story about a lady who boarded her 2 bulldogs and told the workers that the dogs absolutely could not be left outside (this was in Texas) and 3 hours later she gets a call saying one of her dogs died outside. I was so upset by that!! I just couldn't imagine her pain. I would love to watch the Natures documentary listed. Where could I find it?
you aren't alone :(
I think this documentary will probably answer some of your questions
NATURE’s Why We Love Cats and Dogs on the right track. I personally think dogs are special spiritual beings that enrich our lives so much:)
Thank you, Vio....Maggie--you can watch it online!....I am
looking forward to watching this.....Thank you for suggesting it, Vio!
http://www.pbs.org/wnet/nature/episodes/why-we-love-cats-and-dogs/video-...
Our sweet Archimedes "MEATY" Bones (or as we say...boneSHHH!) ---born 11/28/08---- our first bullllyyyy!!!
And SOPHIE Bubbles *Rapscallion* (LOL!) ---born 4/3/11----our second bulllllyyyy!!!!
I have sen that movie and OMG!
I am pretty emotional and I totally cried during that movie. Jackson is not even two yet and I think all the time about when he is going to pass and I cry. When I read posts on here of people loosing their babies I cry. I can't help it, but I have cried every time someone has lost their baby on here. It just makes me think about Jackson. I know I have 2 more babies, but jackson was my first, came down with discospondolytis at 4.5 months and I thought I was going to loose him then, so yes I'm partial. Heck, I'm getting teary eyed right now thinking about it again. So, I totally understand what you are talking about.
Sometimes I even think about not going through Jackson passing, like giving him away before it happens so I don't have to deal with it. I don't think I could handle it.. but then again he is my life and I can't give him away. I just don't want to deal with it. I just wish he'd live forever is all.
i know what you mean
i know what you mean sweetie...everyone in my family or circle of
friends knows never to mention anything sad around animals or ppl...
i have a tendency to dwell and hard time to surpass...*hugs*,but that
only makes us better ppl i think...,(((hugs)))
dogs cant speak for themselves
and i think this is why the biggest mean man will slow down for a squirel in the road.....animals like children cant defend them selves.....cant get back at the arse holes who abuse them negelect them...dump them in the middle of the night....put them in shelters that still use gas to end their lives...we all look at our bulls and wonder how anyone could hurt them......i look at my 8 guys...6 of them that have spina bifida and no they had no voice but mine....no one wanted the mess...or wanted one that was not prefect...well they give me back more than i can ever give them.....thats why we cry for the ones lost the ones we cant get to and help....
awww......God Bless you for taking care of EIGHT bullies!! Wow,
I have seen those sweet bullies on rescue sites with spina bifida and other issues.....If I could take care of a bunch of them full-time, I would!
I am hoping to rescue at least one bully in need of a good home, just still working on convincing my hubby!!! HUGS to you and allll your
sweet babies!!!!!!!!!!
Our sweet Archimedes "MEATY" Bones (or as we say...boneSHHH!) ---born 11/28/08---- our first bullllyyyy!!!
And SOPHIE Bubbles *Rapscallion* (LOL!) ---born 4/3/11----our second bulllllyyyy!!!!
god bless you for having the
god bless you for having the courage to do that...esp w/the "imperfect ones",
i'm teared up just reading that
smoochoes all the scrunchy faces