Submitted by angie wiggins on May 20, 2012 - 10:52pm.
Does anyone have any suggestions how they got through the first few days of grief if that is not too personal?I am going to go to a loss group on thurs
everyone grieves in their own way and at their own pace. I've lost so many of my little buddies, each loss is so different but every one of them is devastating. I know that people say it will get better with time and its impossible to believe, but it does get better. The sadness doesn't go away, you just learn to cope with it.
I would suggest reading Bill at Rainbow Bridge. It's about a guy who bulldog passes and how he deals with it. Know that Gunner is still with you and he is happy for the great life you gave him. The best advice is to give yourself time to begin healing. You will have good days and not so good days, but it will get better.
Submitted by Monica-Maude-Gus on May 21, 2012 - 9:51am.
You are in my thoughts and prayers. My religion does not believe that animals go to heaven either because they don't have souls. Whatever. I believe with all my heart that they are waiting to be reunited with us when we pass from the earth.
All of us are here and ready to give you all the support we can.
Submitted by Stephanie and David on May 21, 2012 - 2:41pm.
When I was a little kid (probably 3rd grade) my piano teacher, a nun, told me that dogs didn't go to heaven. Her logic was that since dogs didn't talk, they didn't go to heaven. I told her, "Well, babies don't talk either, and they go to heaven."
You probably believe that God sent dogs to be our heartbeats and to teach people how to love. A God like this wouldn't have a heaven without dogs, expecially since for you, a heaven without dogs is no heaven at all.
In your heart you know that dogs are love and that they will truely be in heaven. Your church may disagree (for now) but it's OK for you to listen to your heart.
Submitted by alisonjmorgan on May 22, 2012 - 8:04am.
I have tears in my eye's. All you can do is cry your sadness out, remember the funny moments that made you smile, which now will make you cry but will be healing in time.
Submitted by Deb and MacKenz... on May 21, 2012 - 4:39pm.
for your loss of Gunner. I know how sad and painful this time is for you. In time it will get better, but there will always be a piece of your heart gone. I know I did alot of crying and did take a few days off of work. I hope you can find some comfort with your group. I think everyone grieves in their own way. Hugs to you :(
Each person grieves their own way, as we all know. When I lost my first bully I forced myself to go to work the next day. Being a nurse, I was forced to concentrate at work. I could not talk about it at work. I remember staying long after my shift was over because the pain would knife me in the chest as soon as I opened the door at home. It was unbearably painful.
I had to put away all his food dishes, collars, leashes, harnesses so I had no reminder. I had to put away all the pictures of him. I cried constantly each time I thought of him. I received the ashes back and had to hide them. My way.
Eventually I started looking at pictures of him. It brought on constant tears each time and I could not even see the pic for the tears. My eyes are watering up now, just thinking about it and he died in 2000.
I know I will have to go through it again and dread it. Mr. Higgins will be 8 in August. This is just to tell you what I did to cope.
Keep in touch with the message boards and you will feel just a bit better to know we realy do understand your pain.
Submitted by Céline and Ange... on May 22, 2012 - 9:34am.
And all I can suggest to you is KEEP BUSY. Go to the movies (hubby and I stayed at the theatre for three movies in a row - I don't even remember what they were). Go shopping (without your credit cards), go hiking, go visit family members/friends you've been meaning to but never got around to, go see people with little kids - they're joy will distract you, clean out your closets while listening to loud music, garden, etc.....
For that first month, really, as soon as I sit down, I couldn't bear it. I was always on the go. Had to. The pain will become manageable within a little while.
I'm so, so sorry about your loss of Gunner. I know how you feel, I really do.
And I'm pretty sure my girl was up there greeting him at the Rainbow Bridge, a special heaven for animals. They're probably having a nice snack right now and then they'll take a nap :)
So so sorry...
So sorry for your loss. I know how bad it hurts right now, please know that you will feel better with time. :(
Missy
Does anyone have any
Does anyone have any suggestions how they got through the first few days of grief if that is not too personal?I am going to go to a loss group on thurs
angie...i lost my archie
angie...i lost my archie jan.24 and in a few days it will be exactly 4 months...i was not as fortunate to have
him 11 yrs but a mere 17 months...but the pain and loss might have well been like it was 17 yrs...i personally
equate it to losing a family member b/c that's exactly what they are...there is no grieving period b/c we still
mourn and cry like it was only yesterday or just hours that he passed...take comfort that he was beyond
loved and taken care of as i'm sure you all had him and treated him like a child,as we did w/my archie.
there is not a day that goes by where i don't kiss his pic when i get up in the morning or when i go to bed
at night...speaking for myself i had a great support of family and friends and they ALL helped w/our grieving
process...esp the ppl in here,they were/are wonderful...for myself it helped talking about him,i still do chance
i get...the house is empty w/out him and we all can use the distraction ,eventually i have started looking to
get another one ,i felt i was betraying him i didn't want him to think i stopped loving him...but now i realize
my heart is big enough to love another b/c i will never forget him or ever replace him...
i'm so sorry for your loss,(((hugs)))
Angie, going to a group might help
everyone grieves in their own way and at their own pace. I've lost so many of my little buddies, each loss is so different but every one of them is devastating. I know that people say it will get better with time and its impossible to believe, but it does get better. The sadness doesn't go away, you just learn to cope with it.
I am so sorry for your loss of Gunner.
Lynn King CPDT-KA
Angie..
I am so sorry for your loss of Gunner, I wish there was something I could do or say to make you feel better.
I am so incredibly sorry
I really have no words that can comfort you at this time, and I feel your pain and loss in your words. My condolenses on the loss of your best buddy.
**********"Life is far too short not to have a little umbrella in your drink"**********
Sorry for your loss
I would suggest reading Bill at Rainbow Bridge. It's about a guy who bulldog passes and how he deals with it. Know that Gunner is still with you and he is happy for the great life you gave him. The best advice is to give yourself time to begin healing. You will have good days and not so good days, but it will get better.
Sarah
Angie, I am so sorry for your loss
You are in my thoughts and prayers. My religion does not believe that animals go to heaven either because they don't have souls. Whatever. I believe with all my heart that they are waiting to be reunited with us when we pass from the earth.
All of us are here and ready to give you all the support we can.
Monica, Maude and Gus
Very sorry.
He will live on forever in your heart.
Ohh Im sorry...
I can understand how you feel! We are never every ready to say goodbye to our babies.. (((HUGS))) :-(
PollyAnna's Words of Wisdom
http://www.lakeside-studio-petportraits-andmore.com
Dogs go to heaven.
When I was a little kid (probably 3rd grade) my piano teacher, a nun, told me that dogs didn't go to heaven. Her logic was that since dogs didn't talk, they didn't go to heaven. I told her, "Well, babies don't talk either, and they go to heaven."
You probably believe that God sent dogs to be our heartbeats and to teach people how to love. A God like this wouldn't have a heaven without dogs, expecially since for you, a heaven without dogs is no heaven at all.
In your heart you know that dogs are love and that they will truely be in heaven. Your church may disagree (for now) but it's OK for you to listen to your heart.
I'm very sorry to read this...
my heart breaks for you. I'm sure Gunner had a wonderful life with you, sending you prayers for peace & closure.
Cathy & Zimmer
www.midatlanticbulldogrescue.com
sadness
I have tears in my eye's. All you can do is cry your sadness out, remember the funny moments that made you smile, which now will make you cry but will be healing in time.
Alison and my little girl Matilda
Oh, I'm so sorry for your loss.
I hope that as time passes your happy memories with your sweet boy will help ease your heartache.
Shannon and Winston :)
My swimming bully buddy!
I'm so sorry Angie
for your loss of Gunner. I know how sad and painful this time is for you. In time it will get better, but there will always be a piece of your heart gone. I know I did alot of crying and did take a few days off of work. I hope you can find some comfort with your group. I think everyone grieves in their own way. Hugs to you :(
I'm so sorry
i understand what you're going thru. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.
Olivia
my heart goes out to you
Each person grieves their own way, as we all know. When I lost my first bully I forced myself to go to work the next day. Being a nurse, I was forced to concentrate at work. I could not talk about it at work. I remember staying long after my shift was over because the pain would knife me in the chest as soon as I opened the door at home. It was unbearably painful.
I had to put away all his food dishes, collars, leashes, harnesses so I had no reminder. I had to put away all the pictures of him. I cried constantly each time I thought of him. I received the ashes back and had to hide them. My way.
Eventually I started looking at pictures of him. It brought on constant tears each time and I could not even see the pic for the tears. My eyes are watering up now, just thinking about it and he died in 2000.
I know I will have to go through it again and dread it. Mr. Higgins will be 8 in August. This is just to tell you what I did to cope.
Keep in touch with the message boards and you will feel just a bit better to know we realy do understand your pain.
I am so sorry.
Time surely heals each of us, thankfully.
Deborah+Mr. Higgins
I'm so sorry
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Angie, I lost my Stella just a little under three months ago
And all I can suggest to you is KEEP BUSY. Go to the movies (hubby and I stayed at the theatre for three movies in a row - I don't even remember what they were). Go shopping (without your credit cards), go hiking, go visit family members/friends you've been meaning to but never got around to, go see people with little kids - they're joy will distract you, clean out your closets while listening to loud music, garden, etc.....
For that first month, really, as soon as I sit down, I couldn't bear it. I was always on the go. Had to. The pain will become manageable within a little while.
I'm so, so sorry about your loss of Gunner. I know how you feel, I really do.
And I'm pretty sure my girl was up there greeting him at the Rainbow Bridge, a special heaven for animals. They're probably having a nice snack right now and then they'll take a nap :)
I am so sorry for your loss Angie....
death ends a life but it does not end the relationship which struggles on in the survivors mind towards some resolution it may never find.
Ashley, Baron and Duchess
Vancouver, Canada