Most days I'm "OK" with having lost Stella, in the sense that I know she had a long and happy life and that I let her go when it stopped being that way. And by "OK", I mean just a dull ache and frequent pangs of "I miss my girl!!". Then sometimes it hits me like a ton of bricks - and my heart just HURTS. I had bit of a rough night last night (lots of images flashing in my mind of her last few hours when she wasn't doing well at all).
Ugh! I miss my girl... :(
I can understand....
It was last Memorial Day that Delilah became seriously ill. She had been battling Kidney Failure for quite some time and was doing well. She woke up one morning and took a turn for the worse. It will be a year since we lost her on June 6, 2011.... I think of little Delilah every day and miss her terribly.
:-( ((HUGS))
PollyAnna's Words of Wisdom
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I can also understand
I understand your feelings also. I had to have my sweet frenchie Zoe, put to sleep after a fast advancing brain tumor finally made her quality of life not what it should be. I was there when she finally crossed in September 2011. Everyday I remember her and wish things could be different. I miss her so much. I have friends who still ask about her, forgetting the trauma and hurt we all went through.
:(((((
Celine my heart breaks reading that.....we all know how special Stella was & always will be to many of us.
Cathy & Zimmer
www.midatlanticbulldogrescue.com
Sending you hugs
I'm so sorry for your hurt. These little darlings really get into our hearts.
Peggy and Stoney
:(
I'm sorry for your pain Celine.
I understand Celine.
And am right here with you, missing her to pieces. She was such a happy, lovely girl, wasn't she!
Many hugs for you....
Amy and Sophia
I'm so sorry, Celine.....
I know exactly what you're feeling. I have the same issue when thinking of Baxter. It will get better, there are certainly good days and bad. I know when I think of Ozzy now, they're only happy thoughts and memories. The bad stuff has faded with him, with Baxter it's still kind of fresh but I know it will get better as I'm sure it will when you think of your beautiful girl.
Sending lots of hugs,
Karen
same here...
there are days that it seems that you haven't moved forward since the day IT happened...
i still can't believe that he's gone...(((hugs)))
I am so sorry ...
yeah, it sucks. I have lost 4 animals in my life so far.. but I haven't lost a bully yet. Kibby is my first bully and yes, she is sooo special. Kibby is almost 8 now and my husband keeps warning me to remember that these dogs have such a short expiration date... but at the same time I sit here and hope that she will live to like 16 , like a normal dog! I can't even imagine whats going to happen after I lose kibby. I don't want to sound like a crazy person, but these bullies are truly "special" and different from other dogs. I almost consider kibby my baby and I always joke around that when she leaves this worls, that I am going to go with her, just so we can be together! when I lost my beloved sheperd momo, I didnt go to work for 2 weeks! when kibby leaves this world.. I would probably have to quit my job because I dont see my self being able to function without her! sorry, I didn't mean to put any crazy thoughts in your head... just saying I understand that the type of attachment with these dogs is sooo different that I know its hard for you. maybe its time you look at the bcan bully rescue?
sincerely, christine
THANKS EVERYONE
You are true kindred spirits.
With you on this
Most of the time I am fine, but I will have my days where I just start to cry. I think there will always be good days and not so good days. We still have Kilmore and Winnie toys in garbage bags that we put there after Winnie passed, and I can't bring myself to look through them yet. But there are also times when something happens that makes me think of them and I just smile.`When we brought Oliver and Rocco home we had new puppy toys for them. Rocco comes running out of our bedroom with one of Kilmores favorite rabbit toys. My husband and I looked at eachother and laughed. We were sure we got all the toys. We say that Kilmore wanted the boys to have the rabbit toy and that is why Rocco found it. I do know that all of our bulldogs are looking down at us smiling and happy that we gave them great homes and great lives.
Sarah
hugs~~~~~
hugs
Deborah & the NC gang
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Hugs...
Like so many others, I understand. Bullies are very special, as are the people who love them. It's been 5 years for my Ollie & I STILL can cry at the thought of him...but honey, that very last image...will be forever burned into my memory & it breaks my heart. Try, try, try to remember the better days...the days that make you smile & laugh...that's what I do...it helps somewhat...not 100%, but somewhat.
Hugs!
Jen
Jen
www.bluelinebulldogs.com
Grief is part of life :(
I Only Wanted You
They say memories are golden
well maybe that is true.
I never wanted memories,
I only wanted you.
A million times I needed you,
a million times I cried.
If love alone could have saved you
you never would have died.
In life I loved you dearly,
In death I love you still.
In my heart you hold a place
no one could ever fill.
If tears could build a stairway
and heartache make a lane,
I'd walk the path to heaven
and bring you back again.
Our family chain is broken,
and nothing seems the same.
But as God calls us one by one,
the chain will link again.
Author - Vicky Holder
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I'm so sorry Celine.. Wish I could tell you it gets easier
but you will always have these feelings because of the very close bond you and Stella had.
I Remember
I whined to you softly as you brushed away a tear,
"It's me, I haven't left you, I'm well, I'm fine, I'm here."
I was close to you at breakfast, I watched you pour the tea,
You were thinking of the many times your hands reached down to me.
I was with you at the shops today. Your arms were getting sore.
I longed to take your parcels, I wish I could do more.
I was with you at my grave today, You tend it with such care.
I want to re-assure you, that I'm not lying there.
I walked with you towards the house, as you fumbled for your key.
I gently put my paw on you, I smiled and said "It's me."
You looked so very tired, and sank into a chair.
I tried so hard to let you know, that I was standing there.
It's possible for me to be so near you everyday.
To say to you with certainty, "I never went away."
You sat there very quietly, then smiled, I think you knew...
in the stillness of that evening, I was very close to you.
The day is over... I smile and watch you yawning
and say "Good-night, God bless, I'll see you in the morning."
And when the time is right for you to cross the brief divide,
I'll rush across to greet you and we'll stand, side by side.
I have so many things to show you, there is so much for you to see.
Be patient, live your journey out... then come home to be with me.
Author unknown
Oh, Celine!!! Many, many (( Hugs )) to you....!! I know
what you mean, I realllly do. Grief is SO hard. For me, it's with my baby brother that I lost 3 years ago......and it's EXACTLY
like you said...some days, you're fine, then one day, it will just hit you SO hard......!!! And oh WOW, I just can't think of the future when we lose Meaty
and Sophie....my hubby and I never EVER knew how much we could totally love our doggies!!! Many, many (( HUGS )) to you!!!
Our sweet Archimedes "MEATY" Bones (or as we say...boneSHHH!) ---born 11/28/08---- our first bullllyyyy!!!
And SOPHIE Bubbles *Rapscallion* (LOL!) ---born 4/3/11----our second bulllllyyyy!!!!
YOU GUYS ARE SO GREAT
Thanks for helping me though a rough day yesterday.