Bulldogs World

Stefanie,

     Contact your local Mental Health Association - Look in the phone book or online. A Grief Counselor is a great idea, or even talking to a therapist, who specializes in Grief or Loss.

     http://www.mhadallas.org/   

(A quick Google of Mental Health Association in Dallas)

  Feel free to talk about the grief, about depression, about the loss, about the guilt, about everything that you need to. You have lost a loved one, you have experienced a life altering situation,

There is no need to distinguish 'Pet vs Human' in this situation -

You are not alone in this. Grieving is a part of healing, and they will help you through this.

Rick

I know how difficult it is have a pet pass away.  Our Kilmore passed in his sleep.  He was fine and healthy before that, so it was a shock to us.  I went through the same feelings you are going through, so you aren't alone.  We did things in his memory (donated money to the local shelter and planted a tree in our back yard).  There unfortunately isn't a specified time for healing.  Heck at two weeks I don't think I had gone a day without crying.  Within that time we found out our other bulldog (Winnie) had cancer.  So it's tough for me to say when the healing began since we had the loss of two so quickly.   Kilmore has been gone three months and Winnie two months and I still have moments of saddness.

I agree with Rick that you should contact your local mental health places from the phone book.  It is important to have someone that you can talk with and share your emotions.  I don't think I could have gotten through our losses without my husband and my family.  We are here if you need us.  You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Sarah

But I can tell you that you are perfectly normal, and all of us grieve the loss of these bullies like we would a person's death. I lost my Isabella when she was but a year old. I used to really get down on myself for "not doing, knowing, trying" more. But hindsight...you know what they say...it IS 20/20. You did all you could. It will take time, but you WILL get through this. Go volunteer at a local shelter. Visit a friend with a little dog and play with it some. Donate money to a rescue. Any of those things might help you feel more connected again to life, less saddened by your loss. 

And also, time will help. Give yourself time. Go for a drive. Walk through the mall with a friend. Discover some little place in Dallas or Fort Worth that you have heard about but never gone to. Anything that will help you get out and get your thoughts on something else for even a few minutes. 

I live west of DFW metro. Where are you located?

Hang in there, and give yourself time to get through the loss of your beloved Meatball.  Meatball will always have a special place in your heart. And you'll always cherish special memories.  At the same time, bulldogs are such fun-loving clowns that I doubt Meatball would want to see you "stuck" for too long grieving over his passing. So let the tears out but don't hold back on the sunny memories you have and let yourself laugh out loud. Time is a precious gift that has a way of healing. We are all here for you! XO

thru...please know you will get pass this ..your won't forget  but it gets easier ..i felt the same pain when i lost two bulldogs months apart ...blame myself ...and just couldn't seem to get a grip on it all but i will say this and it may sound harsh ...what made me snap out of it was to get another baby bully ...somewhere to put my attention and love that i had for Haley and Chessty ...they were and still are my babies forever but they knew i loved them and so does your baby...they are still with us forever ...you however need someplace to put your feeling ...think about it ..it will help i assure you :) take care ..candy

there is nothing wrong with the way you feel.  There is a wonderful book for dealing with grief written by a guy who lost his bulldog, Bill, and could not recover from it.  Writing the book helped his as well as starting a grief counseling group.

Here is the link:

http://www.amazon.com/Bill-Rainbow-Bridge-Dan-Carrison/dp/0984568204/ref...

The author, Dan Carrison, and I have become friends since I read the book.  I did not lose a bulldog at the time, but let me tell you, I cried from sentence 1 and by the end of the book, I felt so much better over my loss of my dog (cocker spaniel).  I have sent this book to all my friends who have lost their bulldogs and no one has ever said anything but how wonderful it is.

Just so you know you are not alone....a very close friend of mine lost her bulldog just this past Friday.  I texted her in the AM he was doing great (he was sick at the time) and the next thing I know she called to let me know he was gone.  I cried like that dog was mine.  And I still am crying.  But....funny thing is, I never met him.  Only thru pictures and videos.  He made such a impact on my life that I loved him with all I had.  And I can't tell you how depressed I am over his loss. 

Bulldogs are special.  They really are your best friend and not your dog. 

I am so very sorry for your loss. 

I am so sorry to hear that you are suffering so terribly -although I am not surprised as anyone who has loved a bully grieves so deeply. I remember reading this phrase after my Chloe died and it gave me some peace. It says," If love could have save you, you would have lived forever." Perhaps this little phrase will help you too. I sure hope so. I feel for you in your loss.