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Considering Adopting a Rescue with a Toddler in the Home

Is this unsafe? The bulldog was severly neglected (previous owner is being prosecuted) and never trained. He was recently neutered and shelter believes it will help with his dominance/compulsive humping issues. I have two very happy bulldog littermates (male & female) and they are also a concern, whether they would accept another dog. I'd really like to give this poor guy a loving home. I know I can "try it out" as a foster, but I don't like the idea of putting my 19-mo old son in harms way if rescues are as unpredictable as I have been told. Others say it would be fine. Does anyone have any thoughts on this? Feel free to be frank happy.gif thank you.

You have a handsome gang Miranda!

Thanks for giving your experienced opinion. You are correct, the shelter does minimal behavior testing. The resue groups vs shelter is all new to me and everyone here at BDW has been very gracious with their input. I made a donation to help with his care. I know two women looking to adopt, both have bulldog experience, so I am referring them to the shelter. I hate to see a bulldog, or any dog, with serious health issues not be sent to a home willing to give 110%. It happens too often with bulldogs. I really wish I could take him and be sure he was attended to like he should be.

You have a handsome gang Miranda!

Thanks for giving your experienced opinion. You are correct, the shelter does minimal behavior testing. The resue groups vs shelter is all new to me and everyone here at BDW has been very gracious with their input. I made a donation to help with his care. I know two women looking to adopt, both have bulldog experience, so I am referring them to the shelter. I hate to see a bulldog, or any dog, with serious health issues not be sent to a home willing to give 110%. It happens too often with bulldogs. I really wish I could take him and be sure he was attended to like he should be.

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I had a toddler when I adopted one of mine,

Adopting a rescue and having a toddler can be great, but if the dog already has humping and dominant issues, I would be a bit weary. I would say the way to go would be adopting from a rescue where a foster home can evaluate the dogs issues, the shelters usually don't do too much temperment testing ( the shelter around me anyway). I think it's great you are looking into adoption, way to go, and good luck!

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I had a toddler when I adopted one of mine,

Adopting a rescue and having a toddler can be great, but if the dog already has humping and dominant issues, I would be a bit weary. I would say the way to go would be adopting from a rescue where a foster home can evaluate the dogs issues, the shelters usually don't do too much temperment testing ( the shelter around me anyway). I think it's great you are looking into adoption, way to go, and good luck!

Miranda and the SB gang in Toronto.
The spina bifida babies,
[linked image]
Pugsley
[linked image]
Piper and Rosco
And always Chance
[linked image]
And Matilda
[linked image]

as always, good advice Ela1ne.

very diplomatically stated too!

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as always, good advice Ela1ne.

very diplomatically stated too!

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I had no idea

that this could be done. I will check for a recue volunteer in my area. Thnak you again!

I had no idea

that this could be done. I will check for a recue volunteer in my area. Thnak you again!

Yes, those of us who work with rescue programs almost

always refer to a BCARN-affiliated organization (Bulldog Club of America Rescue Network) which is a non-profit, nationwide group with most areas of the US served altho some outlying areas difficult because of the shortage of volunteers. Go to www.thebca.org/rescue and read up about BCARN so you can get some understanding of what its all about...then check "rescue volunteers" who are divided by regions, then by state, to locate the group nearest to you. There is contact info listed.

A few shelters are reluctant to work with rescue organizations for some of these reasons. I don't mean to "insult" any particular shelter, for they do a much-needed and often-thankless job, but these are some of the realities I have discovered over the past dozen years: Statistics - they want to show their county government or whoever supports them financially that they have placed dogs in homes. Finances - most BCARN groups are also 501-c-3 "non-profit" and many get the adoption fees waived with their local shelter for this reason, which impacts the cost of running a shelter program. Trust - some shelter personnel just don't have trust or an established working relationship with breed rescue groups, and that impacts all of the breeds = all painted with a tainted brush, unfortunately. The local rescue group may not have been aware of the bulldog being there, or may not have had an open space in their foster program to take the dog. Please talk with them. If you don't get the kind of response you feel you deserve, please let me know...either her or private email. We work hard to make things better for all. happy.gif

Yes, those of us who work with rescue programs almost

always refer to a BCARN-affiliated organization (Bulldog Club of America Rescue Network) which is a non-profit, nationwide group with most areas of the US served altho some outlying areas difficult because of the shortage of volunteers. Go to www.thebca.org/rescue and read up about BCARN so you can get some understanding of what its all about...then check "rescue volunteers" who are divided by regions, then by state, to locate the group nearest to you. There is contact info listed.

A few shelters are reluctant to work with rescue organizations for some of these reasons. I don't mean to "insult" any particular shelter, for they do a much-needed and often-thankless job, but these are some of the realities I have discovered over the past dozen years: Statistics - they want to show their county government or whoever supports them financially that they have placed dogs in homes. Finances - most BCARN groups are also 501-c-3 "non-profit" and many get the adoption fees waived with their local shelter for this reason, which impacts the cost of running a shelter program. Trust - some shelter personnel just don't have trust or an established working relationship with breed rescue groups, and that impacts all of the breeds = all painted with a tainted brush, unfortunately. The local rescue group may not have been aware of the bulldog being there, or may not have had an open space in their foster program to take the dog. Please talk with them. If you don't get the kind of response you feel you deserve, please let me know...either her or private email. We work hard to make things better for all. happy.gif

Thanks! a couple of ?s

thanks!

this shelter (nevins farm, MSPCA, metheun, ma) does not send animals to a rescue first, because I guess they are the rescue? do you mean I should contact a bulldog specific rescue first? Sorry if I seem uninformed, but I have never adopted a rescue dog and I am learning as much as I can. No offense taken ela1ne - you are a very trusted source!!! your advice is always treasured here on BDW!

Thanks! a couple of ?s

thanks!

this shelter (nevins farm, MSPCA, metheun, ma) does not send animals to a rescue first, because I guess they are the rescue? do you mean I should contact a bulldog specific rescue first? Sorry if I seem uninformed, but I have never adopted a rescue dog and I am learning as much as I can. No offense taken ela1ne - you are a very trusted source!!! your advice is always treasured here on BDW!

Agree totally with Judy

Let a group that is accustomed to working with Rescues take him first, check out his behavior, likes and dislikes, what type food he does well with, what other health issues he may have (besides being unaltered) as the shelters only treat the most obvious and serious conditions due to costs.

I appreciate your generousity in wanting to help, and he may be ready for you in 3-6wks but don't chance not only your child but the harmony of the entire household. Your child isn't afraid of dogs now...try to avoid adding any tension between the dogs you already have and a "newcomer". It would not be easy for any dog to come into a new home and be #3 in seniority, especially if he was not housed and loved well...he has "trust issues" that need to be evaluated first. Please do let the rescue group know you are interested in this dog IF they feel it will be a reasonable placement for the betterment of the dog. Rescue volunteers see everything from the dog's perspective...I hope you don't take any offense at this. happy.gif

Agree totally with Judy

Let a group that is accustomed to working with Rescues take him first, check out his behavior, likes and dislikes, what type food he does well with, what other health issues he may have (besides being unaltered) as the shelters only treat the most obvious and serious conditions due to costs.

I appreciate your generousity in wanting to help, and he may be ready for you in 3-6wks but don't chance not only your child but the harmony of the entire household. Your child isn't afraid of dogs now...try to avoid adding any tension between the dogs you already have and a "newcomer". It would not be easy for any dog to come into a new home and be #3 in seniority, especially if he was not housed and loved well...he has "trust issues" that need to be evaluated first. Please do let the rescue group know you are interested in this dog IF they feel it will be a reasonable placement for the betterment of the dog. Rescue volunteers see everything from the dog's perspective...I hope you don't take any offense at this. happy.gif

Thanks Judy

I found him through a large rescue (MSPCA). He is already there, just got over pnemonia and entropian surgery. I asked that an evaluation be done and gave them all of my concerns with a small child and other dogs. After the eval, the rescue coordinator said he was fine with kids. When I went to visit him, the trainer said she was covered with bruises from his latching while humping. Also, the sign on his cage indicated no kids (emphasized),yet most dogs there were said to be ok with kids. The rescue knows my vet history with caring for my other bulldogs, said they would like to place him with me kmowing he would be cared for by someone with experience with the breed/medical issues.

I also understand what you mean about there being an adjustment periord, very well said.

Thanks Judy

I found him through a large rescue (MSPCA). He is already there, just got over pnemonia and entropian surgery. I asked that an evaluation be done and gave them all of my concerns with a small child and other dogs. After the eval, the rescue coordinator said he was fine with kids. When I went to visit him, the trainer said she was covered with bruises from his latching while humping. Also, the sign on his cage indicated no kids (emphasized),yet most dogs there were said to be ok with kids. The rescue knows my vet history with caring for my other bulldogs, said they would like to place him with me kmowing he would be cared for by someone with experience with the breed/medical issues.

I also understand what you mean about there being an adjustment periord, very well said.

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rescues are not .....

unpredictable...i dont know who told you that....first if you have never fostered a dog let a rescue org know about this dog and let them take him....they can then tell you if this dog is safe around kids and other dogs....dont bring in any dog just because you feel sorry for it....your whole routine is going to be upset for a few months.....so let a rescue take this dog in...keep in touch with them...and if they feel you and this dog will work out adopt....just dont get yourself caught in the middle of a unhappy situation....
gwen 9 years adopted....
dolly 9 years adopted....
charlie 8 months has sb and is adopted (he is also my wild child).....
wilson 2 years...
with every adoption coming in wilson and i had to make changes....some good some ok... but we are a happy family...

judy wilson's picture

rescues are not .....

unpredictable...i dont know who told you that....first if you have never fostered a dog let a rescue org know about this dog and let them take him....they can then tell you if this dog is safe around kids and other dogs....dont bring in any dog just because you feel sorry for it....your whole routine is going to be upset for a few months.....so let a rescue take this dog in...keep in touch with them...and if they feel you and this dog will work out adopt....just dont get yourself caught in the middle of a unhappy situation....
gwen 9 years adopted....
dolly 9 years adopted....
charlie 8 months has sb and is adopted (he is also my wild child).....
wilson 2 years...
with every adoption coming in wilson and i had to make changes....some good some ok... but we are a happy family...

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