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Just picked up Bubba's ashes...looking for suggestions

I haven't been on BDW since I lost Bubba six weeks ago.  Hope everyone and their bullies are doing great.   I just picked up Bubba's ashes today and am not sure how to feel or exactly what to do with them.  Bubba was my first (bull)dog and the love of my life.   Was thinking about spreading some ashes at some of his favorite places from CA to FL to MA.   I definitely want to keep some, although I have no idea where, and am considering giving some to my mother and ex.   However, now that I have them here I cannot even imagine opening the box.  Looking for advice/suggestions from others who have lost/cremated their bully or anyone who has a suggestion.  

RIP Sgt Bubba Winston Wilson 11/9/01-7/30/11....miss ya big man.  

Kim

Also, I have SO grateful that my cousin called the ER vet after he had passed and asked them to make a pawprint, which they did in plaster.  

Pawprint OHHH what an idea !

When I lost my 1st puppy at the age of 2, I couldnt handle it, I think I took her passing harder than some family members, but what I did, was a few pictures and her collar are in a shadow box type frame, and I see it everyday.   Bubba's ashes....well they do make some keepsakes....urns etc.

Give it a little time.  Time will lead you the right direction :)

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PrestonPark's picture

Wow, so sorry for your loss,

Wow, so sorry for your loss, first of all. When my Nikki passed, I dreaded the day when my husband brought home his ashes...just made it painfully final. Like some here, I took his passing very very hard and even now (a year later), I'm still not over it. Nikki's ashes are in our home office (where we spend alot of time) with his picture. We will bury it perhaps one day, in our garden at home. Right now though, it feels right that his remains are where we spend so much of our time. I did think about spreading them somewhere...but like you, I can't bear the thought of even opening the urn. As far as I'm concerned, I will never open it and, if we do decide to bury it one day, it will be buried in the urn.

Very personal decision and only your heart can tell you what's right...

Stephanie and David's picture

Urns are available for dogs

Many funeral homes sell beautiful urns and wooden boxes for the ashes of beloved dogs and they can put the dog name and other info on them. The vary in price, from about $75 to $175, although if you want, you can get more expensive ones. Some are simple and plain and others elaborate. if you're an artist, you can personalized them yourself.

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I have my

dog and cats ashes in urns....saved my dogs old collar too and have that around the urn....my cats urn is wooden with his name on it...my bil is very good at making wooden urns~~~

so sorry for your loss~~~hugs

I have my yellow lab's ashes...

a beautifully carved wooden box and his collar with tags is hanging from my rear view mirror in my suv and I also had some of his ashes put into a necklace that I wear around my neck, so he's with me everyday.

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I must be a wuss

 Strange, because he died in 2000. If I see an all white bully I cannot bear it. That is why I got a dark brindle boy this time. I am not sure if I will get ashes back again. I am just storing them in an old trunk and only got them out when I moved. It was terrible. I have memories. Getting another bully does not take the pain away. I think there is something special about the first bully we own. Losing a bully is so very hard.

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wish I had thought of the paw prints

I would have loved to have Roxy and Belle's prints.What a great idea. Wish I had thought of that.

I have their ashes in ceder boxes on a shelf in my dog room with their collars on the boxes. Belle's is next to a little bronze statue I have that looks just like her and Roxy's is by her portrait that Pam painted for me. I don't think I could open the boxes.

I think you should wait a while before making a decision about what to do with his ashes. At least wait a few weeks and think about it.

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  • Angela and PollyAnna's picture

    Here is a link.....

    When I lost my Delilah this past June it just shook us to the core.  I found this site and ordered an urn for her.  It is stunning!  The one we purchased is a revolving octagon with poem and a place for many photos.  It is beautiful...

    http://www.perfectmemorials.com/pet-urns/?gclid=CLLYya-gmqsCFcQJ2godHiXlhg

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    karonelaine's picture

    Kim I'm so sorry

    This is a hard one here. When I lose Loulou I am going to have her stuff. She is truly my heartdog. I have had others but not like Loulou. If I would ever had decide to cremate her I thought of taking some ashes and have them put in a glass stone/hourglass and wear them around my neck. But since she has became my world and I don't want to go on without her. I know this day will come. I will keep her forever with me. The others has told you what you can get. Even some type of necklace is something to think about. I'm so sorry for your lost. Glad he is back home with you.

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    Céline and Angel Stella's picture

    What I'm planning

    OK, so I'm a planner!  Stella's not gone yet but I already plan on putting her ashes in this very cool vintage bulldog cookie jar that my hubby bought for me years ago.  I will probably put her tags in there and a piece of her blankie.

    You could go on eBay and look for a container of some sort (jar, box, etc.) that you like that would be big enough to fit his ashes.  My thinking is that the object is a decorative piece that I enjoy visually but that is still bulldoggy and worthy of my girl.

    Again, I'm so, so sorry about Bubba.  I know how much he meant to you.  Those pics of you with him in the ER still haunt me and bring me great sadness.  I hope finding a final resting place for him will bring you some comfort.

    SNACPete's picture

    Sorry for your loss

    I'm sorry for your loss of sweet Bubba. We'll be keeping our pets ashes and when one of us goes, our ashes will probably be spread together in the ocean.

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    ashes

    I lost my boy Rocky 10 months ago, I have his ashes in a bulldog urn that has his collar around the neck, he is sitting in my livingroom where i can see him everyday, and talk to him every day, I would keep his ashes close to you . Did you get his paw print done?  i know when i brought my boy back home it made me feel complete again, just knowing that he was back home makes it a little bit easier, hope your heart is healing .

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    judy wilson's picture

    i had my dogs ashes put into blown glass....

    in hadley mass their is a place that will put your dogs ashes in blown glass...i have a couple of vases and some paper weights...their beautiful....

    kim and bubba's picture

    What is the name? I'm also in MA. n/m

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    judy wilson's picture

    their located in hadley mass....

    i am at my shop right now but i will find the name...they one need a teaspoon of your friend...but they do beautiful work....i will get back to you

    kim and bubba's picture

    Pawprint and thank you....

    I actually kind of ended up with Bubba's pawprint by accident, although I am SO glad I did.   For the past few months, I had considered getting a tattoo of his shrunken pawprint.  The day after he passed, I realized I would never have the chance to get his print so my cousin called the ER vet. For some reason, I envisioned it being in ink, one dimensional so when I picked up the plaster, two dimensional one I was SO excited.   I find it extremely comforting to be able to pick it up, put my hand in it, or hold it close to my heart.   Bubba was my first dog, my old child (2 or 4 legger), and my everything for almost 10 years.  

    Please know that I really appreciate all the advice and suggestions.  I hope and believe that in time I will know exactly what to do with his ashes.  Currently, his pawprint is on my nightstand.  I have let go of most of his stuff but kept his leash, favorite 2 toys, and crate (which I covered with a rug and he used a step once he was potty trained).   

    Lastly, I recently moved a new apartment that is not pet friendly and although it pains me to say, I am planning on waiting a year to get a new puppy.  I truly believe that is the best decision for me.  However, I am fortunate enough to have a mom with a two bullies - 1.5 year old brother and sister.  Although they lives in FL and I am in MA, I see them every few months and just returned from 12 days enjoying everything bully.   The one thing that really got me and I wasn't expecting was when I heard Tyson snore....a sound I hadn't heard in 6 weeks. 

    Once again, thank you for your words of sympathy (and wisdom).  

    judy wilson's picture

    i found the phone number ad web page

    the place is called Art from Ashes      web page is www.ArtFromAshes.com  phone is 413-303-1793....you do not have to go their...they send you an envelope which you mail to them.....after picking out your pc....no two are ever alike as each one is done separtley

    its well worth it...i am slowly doing all my deceased pets....as i find this beautiful...and less heartbreaking than a box with a picture....

    kim and bubba's picture

    Thank you...

    To be honest, at first I thought you meant they created a glass jar/box/etc to hold the ashes but just realized they use the ashes in the art.  Have never heard of this before but I think it is a unique concept and the pieces are beautiful!  I love the fact that it is not so literal and that the ashes are used to make something.   I'm definitely interested and will probably makes this one (of possibly many) remembrances.  

    Thanks again :)

    Jacinda and the bullies's picture

    I buried Chief's ashes with my Mom

    She died about a year after Chief and I buried them together.

    InekeV's picture

    I've got two of my boys in a

    I've got two of my boys in a urn in my livingroom, in my display cupboard. It didn't feel right to have them somewhere else.

    Ineke

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    Several different options

    There are a ton of options I think.  There are a lot of different varieties of pet keepsakes that will hold some of Bubba's ashes.  If you aren't ready to approach his ashes why not do something like a photo engraved pendant or keychain so you can still have him 'with' you?  The ashes can wait til you're ready but this is kind of a nice interim solution.  I've bought the following - actually of living pets for Christmas gifts - but you can do for pets that have passed too.  I like that you have a lot of options - some of the pendants will actually hold ashes so you could do a pic and then when ready add some of his ashes...so sorry - stinks!  pet photo pendants