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Grieving

Does anybody have any good advice on how to ease the agony and pain of losing your bulldog? I just lost mine after 11 years and 3 months.

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Michele A. Cusyck

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How about

You tell everyone here about your bully? Maybe share some pics and tell us how amazing your dog was, how much you loved it and talk about the things that made it special? I'm no expert and luckily I've never had to deal with this yet but I've seen others here go through the same thing and I've seen this amazing community support people grieving. 

Im so sorry for your loss. I hope you find peace at this hard time ;)

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Katie & Tucker a.k.a "Porkchop"

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It's devastating to lose them no matter...

what age they are.  It sounds trite, but time does make it a little better, although there will always be  a place in your heart for your boy.  Everyone is different in the way they grieve, for me personally, I would think about adopting another bulldog and giving him/her a life as special as the one I lost.  Some people need more time to get over the loss.  We lost our first boy at 22 months old and lost a second to lymphoma at 6 years.  Oliver just turned 10, so I know that his days are growing shorter.  We just have to love them while we can and keep them close when they leave us.  So sorry for your loss.

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I am thinking about

another male bulldog at some point before I get any older. I do have a 2 1/2 year old female that I bought a little hastily after I lost my female a couple of years ago. It took me a while to bond with her (Porscha) because Mercedes was my first bulldog and very special. I want to make sure I'm ready this time. Or maybe I won't ever be. I'm not even sure I want to put myself through the trauma again. Coming home from work now is the pits. I find myself staying at work longer. Maybe I need a shrink.

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Michele A. Cusyck

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Thanks so much

for the kind words. I will try your advice because I know when I talk about him it does put a smile on my face. It's hard because I revolved my whole life around him, especially because of all his medical issues. Life stinks, really.

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Michele A. Cusyck

I know how you feel. Jeeves died 13 days ago.

Jeeves was 13 years old and 1 month. I got him as a rescue when he was 4 months.

I am so sorry for the loss of your baby. It is so devastating to lose our furbabies.

I decided to do Pet Loss Bereavement therapy to cope with this huge loss of my baby Jeeves. I did this also when I experienced my first pet loss of my other rescue Bulldog, Angel almost 3 years ago.

Please know you not alone.

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Sorry too.

I am very sorry for your loss, too. It is very devestating. And I haven't fully recovered from losing my first bulldog, Mercedes, almost 2 years ago. I do have another female, Porscha, who is almost 3. She is preoccupying my time and helping me to cope because she is still a handful. lol

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Michele A. Cusyck

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so sorry for your loss........

just let your feelings flow. let the memories of the happy times you have shared enter your mind. the pain will never go away, but your heart will let you smile again in those precious, precious memories...........

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Mack 'n' Tillie Mae Mack

 

 

attitude is altitude!

 

 

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I'm so very sorry for your loss.

I would like to hear about your beautiful bully. What was his/her name? How did you come about having a bully? Sharing your story with us might help you talk through some of the grief you are feeling, and remembering the good things will heal your heart a little bit. Really though, from experience myself, it will take time. And you take all the time you need. When you are ready, another beautiful bully will come into your life, and all that love will return to your heart. Sometimes, that is the very best medicine ever.

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Amy and Sophia

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Kojak

Kojak was his name and he was awesome. He suffered a lot of medical conditions from the time we had him at 8 weeks, mainly chronic inhalation pnuemonia. He lost most of his puppy life sadly. But we poured our hearts, souls, and worldy possessions into him to give hime a great life. I couldn't ask more of him because he gave us a little over 11 years. All my friends and family think if someone else had him they would have put him down a long time ago. He gave life a hell of a run and I know I have to not be selfish in that he's not having any more surgeries, treatments, needles, or medicines. He's at peace now.

Thanks so much for the kind words and listening to me. It surely does help.

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Michele A. Cusyck

most of us know how you feel............

I lost my bulldog last summer. I was heartbroken. I spent hours going through pictures I had taken, picked my favorite ones and used Shutterfly to make a photo memory book of him.  It sits on my coffee table and I can look at it whenever I want.  As someone else said, share you story with us with pictures, or tell us about your baby.  You will be amazed how supportive we can be.  Hang in there!

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  Miss you sweet boy Otie (July 29, 2013)

 

 

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So very sorry......Many, many ((( hugs )))!!! And you can

ALWAYS find support here----!!!!  I am very, very sorry!!!  ((( hugs )))

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Our sweet Archimedes "MEATY" Bones (or as we say...boneSHHH!)    ---born 11/28/08---- our first bullllyyyy!!!

And  SOPHIE  Bubbles *Rapscallion*   (LOL!) ---born 4/3/11----our second bulllllyyyy!!!!  

Sophie's very first day home with us....awwww........May 2011.......tooo sweet for words!!!

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i'd say nomatter how long

i'd say nomatter how long we've had them for-ofcourse the longer they are in our lives

and then lose them we are and forever shall be inconsolable...i had my archibald for

17 months and lost about 17 hrs after neutering suregery...it's been 2+ yrs and still i cry...

if i can take that day back,oh man...i would do it in a heartbeat!!!

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i'm so sorry for your

i'm so sorry for your loss,(((hugs)))

Stephanie and David's picture

I'm so sorry.

We lost our 14-year old Maybull in January.

Some areas have pet loss support groups. If you have one of these available, it might help to share your grief. You can also come here and talk with us. We understand.